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REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY

REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY

Recently on my visit to Chawri Bazaar in old and real Delhi, where my ancestors settled, lived and thrived ever since Bahadur Shah Zafar left Delhi, the paanwala (read panwaari) gave me a good lesson in Reverse Psychology. Before I give you my story, let me explain what Reverse Psychology is.
By the way, Chawri Bazaar is close to Chandni Chowk. Metro stops at both these places. For the uninitiated, the important landmarks of Old Delhi are, Ajmeri Gate (adjacent to the New Delhi Railway station), Sita Ram Bazaar, Lal Kuan, Jama Masjid, Fateh Puri, Town Hall, Nai Sarak, Kinari bazaar, etc. The famous ‘parathe wali gali’ is in a narrow street off Chandni Chowk. Many important historical landmarks are there; Lal Kila, Jain Temple and its world famous Birds’ Hospital, Gauri Shankar Mandir, Gurudwara Shish Ganj sahib, Ghalib’s haveli and many others. This area is famous for many age-old traditions in eateries. Parathe of parathe wali gali, dahi-bhalla of Central Bank, various kinds of chaats, paan, kulfi, daulat ki chaat, nagori-sabji-halwa, poori-berami-sabji and a lot more. Some of the most famous mughlai dishes you get around Jama Masjid area. And then, there is this kheer, cooked slowly for hours together on slow wood fire.

If you are not sure of what Reverse Psychology is, let me explain it for you by the famous example of Shakespeare's characters Romeo and Juliet. Why Romeo and Juliet fell so passionately in love with each other? Or for that matter, Majnu-Laila, Heer-Ranjha, Sassi-Punnu, Shirin-Farhad. So many of our Bollywood movies, the hero and heroine have been victims of this process of psychology. Anarkali, Ek Duje Ke Liye, QSQT (Qayamat Se Qamayat Tak), DDLJ (Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge) have exploited it to dramatize a simple story. The list is endless.
If you remember any of the stories, the progress of all stories is the same. The two lovers meet and take a liking for each other. If the story ended here, they might have gotten together for life; or be happy for a few months and then discover that they are very different and don’t really see the future for themselves. No one would write an epic for them, or make a blockbuster Bollywood movie.
But, the families play spoilsport; forbid them to see or meet up with each other. That only fuels their desire to be together. The more family resists, more intense the attraction gets. Because, something happens that pushes them towards each other and makes them fight till death for their love. What is it? The fact that both families ordered the young lovers not to see each other; and this very reason pulls them towards each other with a magnetic force that no force on earth can pull them apart.
Whenever somebody forbids us to do something, our sense of freedom is endangered. Rebellion becomes our natural reaction. This is at its maximum during our adolescence and young adulthood, the age of risk-taking behaviour.
This is why using reverse psychology is such an efficient tool for making others do what you want. It is achieved by telling people to do opposite of what you actually wish them to do.

The effect of Reverse Psychology on group behaviours has been exploited extensively by tobacco companies no ends.










All over the world, most of the countries run regular campaigns for their citizens, especially young, to refrain from smoking. The government puts many restriction on the sale of tobacco, puts statutory warning on the cigarette packets, depicts horrible pictures of victims of tobacco related cancers, and runs advocacy programmes against tobacco use for the school and college students. Tobacco companies know very well how Reverse Psychology works. If they have to promote sales of their products, they like to catch the young population that is their biggest markets. As part of corporate social responsibility, they undertake, finance, and sponsor such programmes directed towards school and university students. The apparent tone of the campaign is ‘Say No to Drugs’, ‘Do Not Smoke’, ‘Tobacco Kills’, ‘Smoking Causes Cancer’ etc. Such messages, packaged beautifully and parroted by attractive models, kindle risk-taking behaviours of the youth. And the tobacco company succeeds in their ulterior motive of increasing sales of their product, and laughing all the way to bank.  
Back to the story at Chawri Bazaar. I had gone there to buy ‘kulfi’ for a family dinner. At Sita Ram Bazaar (adjacent to Chawri Bazaar), you get the best kulfi in the town. Over the years (since my childhood), we have patronized two most famous ones, Duli Chand and Kure Mal, who have been into the business for generations. The same is true for ‘paan’ also; you get the best paans in old Delhi. So I decided to buy some paan too for the evening. Since I was buying quite a few, I had to stay there for some time; while making paans for me, the paanwala was attending to other customers as well. They were mostly for packaged water, or buying cigarettes. What surprised me was that the customers bought one stick only, and none bought the full packet. Each such stick cost INR 7 or 10. There were posters in the shop warning about the dangers of smoking. But none was paying any attention to these. When only two of us were left, I asked him if all the campaign against smoking has dented his sales of cigarettes. He looked at me with an expression as if I had asked him a stupid question. He said, “Ever since these campaigns and advertisements against smoking have begun, the sales of cigarettes have only increased.” He further said that many years ago, the price of a cigarette packet, and he emphasized packet once more, was increased by 10 paise only; the result was the sales decreased by half. Why, because there was no advertisement against smoking then. Advertisement helps increase the sales, even if it is negative. Badnaam huye to kya hua, naam tou hoga!


No doubt, tobacco is a big killer all over the world. Even if it does not kill, it impairs our health by affecting practically all the organs and systems of the body. If our anti-tobacco programmes have to succeed, there is need to think fresh about how we wish to run our campaign. Time is Now.

Comments

Pooja said…
Well written sir
Poonam Kirpal said…
I endorse your views completely. All through my child rearing years reverse psychology played an important role in disciplining and instilling important value systems in my girls
Anandi Lal said…
Thought provoking and beautifully written.
Subhash Das Das said…
Sir, very well written and lucidly explained. I enjoyed it thoroughly. Through this blog I was able to read your other adventures as well which was a real bonus.
Keep travelling Sir and keep going.
Subhash Das, Chandigarh
Deva wrote, It was a good article sir. Great! Never thought about this angle at all."
Upen, "Reverse psychology explained very well, but then as a corollary does it mean that ENCOURAGING/FORCING youngsters to smoke would help curbing this menace.
Kindly throw some light on that."

Dear Upen,
Thank you for going through the blog. You have posed a very good query.
Reverse psychology works when something is forbidden/ denied to a person, for which he had some liking or attraction. Youth have a natural tendency for risk taking behaviour. They wish to experience and experiment new things even if there is potential for harm. So when they are advised NOT TO DO certain activity, they naturally feel more attracted.
In your example, they are being advised to indulge, not forbidden.
Rather than harping on NOT TO DO, efforts should be directed in giving them all the necessary information, and help them to make a conscious and well informed decision
Mridula Seth wrote, 'Fantastic revelation of your writing skills and passion after retirement. best wishes to continue pursuing your interests'
Sudhir wrote, 'Supriya, you are right. Awareness of consequences of tobacco has definitely helped. For example, cigarette smoking among doctors has certainly decreased. But among women it is showing upward trend, perhaps, to assert their autonomy.
Asking youngsters to 'DONT DO IT', invokes Reverse Psychology. Helping them to take a well informed decision will certainly go a long way.'
Subhash wrote, Sir, very well written and lucidly explained. I enjoyed it thoroughly. Through this blog I was able to read your other adventures as well which was a real bonus.
Keep travelling Sir and keep going.
Regards'
Raka Jain wrote, 'It is interesting, informative, and exciting too.
Sudhir Bagga wrote, you get the best paans in old Delhi?
where?
I want to take them with me to USA?
Please send me the address/directions to this famous panwari.
Thanks'
Rajesh Sagar wrote, Dear Sir
Thanks a lot for sharing.
I thoroughly enjoyed it...in simple and clear language...best part was the strong message at the end..i wish someone take this as script and make a short film:-)
Regards'
Debasish wrote, 'Thank you Sir! Quite true, and as usual, very readable! Now you should write more!

Best regards'
Sonali wrote, Dear Sir,
Interesting take on the subject....also in younger age we all tend to think that we are infallible and invincible.
The detailed description of food is mouth watering.
Thanks
Sonali'
Kshama wrote,
Dear Sudhir,

Kshama wrote, 'Thank you for your refreshing article.

Your article on reverse psychology forces us to think especially in the age when risk taking is considered heroic and in later age it become an addiction.

I have always thought that saying no should be linked to ‘smartness’ etc. The point you are making is true that a fresh re-look is required for us to explore further.

Warm regards
Kshama '
Rajesh wrote, 'Thanks a lot for sharing.
I thoroughly enjoyed it...in simple and clear language...best part was the strong message at the end..i wish someone take this as script and make a short film:-)
Regards
Debasish wrote, Thank you Sir! Quite true, and as usual, very readable! Now you should write more!'
Sonali wrote, 'Interesting take on the subject....also in younger age we all tend to think that we are infallible and invincible.
The detailed description of food is mouth watering.'
Thanks
Kshama wrote,
'Dear Sudhir, Thank you for your refreshing article. Your article on reverse psychology forces us to think especially in the age when risk taking is considered heroic and in later age it become an addiction. I have always thought that saying no should be linked to ‘smartness’ etc. The point you are making is true that a fresh re-look is required for us to explore further. Warm regards Kshama .'
Ramandeep wrote, 'Dear Sir, Interesting take ! and a vivid description of the day @ old delhi ; enjoyed reading it. Raman'
Anjali wrote, 'Excellent blog. Superb expressions. Congrats Sudhir your real vocation should have been writing !! Btw how do you brin the kulfi from SR bazar in this heat. I want to send my driver in the metro. Is it possible without it melting away enroute ?'

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